By Glennon Doyle Melton
Just when Glennon Doyle Melton was beginning to feel she had it all figured out—three happy children, a doting spouse, and a writing career so successful that her first book catapulted to the top of the New York Times bestseller list—her husband revealed his infidelity and she was forced to realize that nothing was as it seemed. A recovering alcoholic and bulimic, Glennon found that rock bottom was a familiar place. In the midst of crisis, she knew to hold on to what she discovered in recovery: that her deepest pain has always held within it an invitation to a richer life.
Love Warrior is the story of one marriage, but it is also the story of the healing that is possible for any of us when we refuse to settle for good enough and begin to face pain and love head-on. This astonishing memoir reveals how our ideals of masculinity and femininity can make it impossible for a man and a woman to truly know one another – and it captures the beauty that unfolds when one couple commits to unlearning everything they’ve been taught so that they can finally, after thirteen years of marriage, fall in love.
Love Warrior is a gorgeous and inspiring account of how we are born to be warriors: strong, powerful, and brave; able to confront the pain and claim the love that exists for us all. This chronicle of a beautiful, brutal journey speaks to anyone who yearns for deeper, truer relationships and a more abundant, authentic life.
Love Warrior is a brutally honest book. Glennon Doyle Melton takes us through her early years and meeting her husband Craig, how she became an alcoholic and then decided to quit once she got pregnant. A hasty wedding and a decade later and her marriage is falling apart.
Without feeling like she’s trying to protect Craig, Doyle Melton is able to present what she learns about him and what he learns through his own therapeutic process while also owning her anger and betrayal. Having always lived in her mind and words, she begins a relationship with her own body, learning to simply be in then to acknowledge what her body feels. I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been as she is a recovering bulimic and acknowledges the distance she put between herself and her body for so many years.
This is not a self-help book. It is a memoir of a woman in pain who is determined to acknowledge how she got to this point and to figure out what comes next. There is no advice or actionable items if these problems resonate with you. However, the books very existence is proof that work can be done to find your authentic self. Just be willing to put in the work and know that your path will be your own.
My wish is to someday write something as honest as Love Warrior. I am inspired by her candor.